Oscar Favorites

Well, you knew I had to do it. I had to post my favorite looks of the Oscars! These are the ones that I was gushing over:

Natalie Portman

Amy Adams

Yep, only two. There were others that I liked but only these two really stood out for me. I wish Amy Adams would do something a little more glamorous with her hair though. I liked the color that Jennifer Hudson chose but not the cut of the dress.

Did you watch the show? James Franco was a bit of a disappointment and I’ve never been a big fan of Anne Hathaway (although I loved all of her seven gowns.) Still, I enjoyed watching the show and just relaxing the night away. It was especially nice because my morning class today was canceled, so I got to sleep in.

There’s really something to be said for waking up naturally rather than to an annoying alarm. Am I right?

xoxo-Kimberly

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Happy Monday!

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I’m not ready for it but I guess it’s here anyway. This is going to be a great week though, so it’s all good! It’s going to be a great week because I turn 30 tomorrow! What’s up!! Yep, no longer freaked out about turning 30.  Again, it’s all good!

xoxo-Kimberly

PS- As soon as things slow down around here a little, I’ll have more of our kitchen remodel to share with you! We’ve been working super hard and we’re really happy with how it’s all coming together. I’ve also got a very small something to share with you in regards to our master bedroom makeover.

In the meantime, you can get caught up with our progress by reading the following posts:

Kitchen Remodel Part 1

Kitchen Remodel Part 2

Kitchen Remodel Part 3

Kitchen Remodel Part 4

Kitchen Remodel Part 5

Bedroom 1

Bedroom 2

Bedroom 3

More thoughts on relationships

When C and I were married, I knew I wasn’t getting what I needed out of the marriage, emotionally. I always felt deprived or starved for that one thing that was important to me. It doesn’t really matter what that one thing was, what matters is that it was something that was important to me because it made me feel loved, wanted, and secure in the marriage and I wasn’t getting it. So, of course, I constantly felt unloved, unwanted and insecure. This wasn’t a physical need, it was an emotional need. Everyone has emotional needs when it comes to their relationships with others. Some people may need gifts, others constant verbal affirmation, and others, quality time and attention. If you aren’t getting it, then you won’t feel satisfied that you are with the right person.

I found that when I asked C for what I needed to feel happy in the marriage, that even though he could easily find a way to give it to me, he wasn’t receptive. He wasn’t receptive because he didn’t understand my need and thought it was unimportant. He felt that way because it wasn’t his need- he had different relationship needs than I did.

For a long time, I beat myself up about it. I felt that it was wrong of me to want certain things from a relationship and that I didn’t have any right to ask my partner to give those emotional needs to me. I felt selfish for even thinking that I deserved to have what I needed out of the marriage to feel loved. So I spent a lot of time, trying to shut that need down and stop myself from wanting it. I stopped asking for it and instead retreated inside myself and dealt alone with the feelings of being unloved and unwanted. My mind was telling me that my husband loved me but without that important emotional need, I couldn’t fully believe that.

At first, I reasoned that maybe if I was giving C what he wanted out of a relationship, then he would return the favor. So I asked him what he felt was important and what he really wanted from me as his partner. Luckily he was good at verbalizing what was important to him. His requests were easily fulfilled and I went about doing them with no complaint. The only problem was, the favor wasn’t returned. So eventually, I gave up trying to give him what he needed. I began to feel resentful towards him. I turned away from him and as a result he turned away from me. We both slowly retreated away from each other and away from the relationship, until there wasn’t much left between us.

I then realized something, it wasn’t selfish of either of us to have relationship needs and ask for them from each other. It was a matter of respectful give and take in the marriage. The selfish part came when each of us refused to listen to each other and contribute to the marriage in the way that the other person needed.

So when I started dating again, I was determined that I would not get into a serious relationship with someone again unless 1. They could fulfill my relationship needs and 2. I could fulfill theirs. It’s not selfish to want something from a relationship and ask for it. If the other person can’t or won’t give it to you and it’s that important to you in feeling happy in the relationship, then they are not a good match for you. Plain and simple. So that is why I say that when you’re choosing your mate, you should be selfish. You deserve to have everything that you need to feel loved, satisfied, happy, and secure in your relationship.

One final thought on the subject. If you’re not getting what you need from a relationship and you haven’t communicated that need with your significant other, then you have no one to blame but yourself. It’s important to be open with each other. And on the other side, it’s just as important to be receptive to your partner when they try to communicate their needs to you. You should never dismiss them or make them feel like they are being selfish for asking, just because their need is not important to you personally. If that person is important to you, then their needs should also be important.

Chances are, you’ll end up with someone who has very different needs than you do. That doesn’t mean it’s not a good match, it just means that you both need to be receptive, understanding and as accommodating of each other as possible. Communication and compromise is vital to a relationship, but it’s never okay to settle for less than what you really want out of the relationship or marriage. If you do that, you won’t be doing yourself or your partner any favors.

Okay, just some thoughts I’ve had on my mind. I’m not saying I’ve figured everything out or that I’m perfect, but I’m trying. I make mistakes, but I try to learn from them. So that’s it. I’ll get off my soap box now. Thanks for reading.

Upcycled

What is upcycling? Upcycling is another way of recycling. It’s turning unwanted items or waste items into something that can be used again in a new way. Here’s a few of my favorite upcycling DIY projects:

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Cheese grater

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Pretty new way to hang your necklaces

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Fork into handle

 

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Suitcase into cat bed

 

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Shutter into mail holder

 

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Broom head into brush holder

 

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Reusable Swiffer cover

 

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Books into bird house

 

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Jelly molds into light fixtures

 

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Globe into light fixture

 

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Do your part in any way that you can!

xoxo-Kimberly

Weekly Eye Candy

Weekly Eye Candy is a series on Ooh! Piece of Candy! that will run every Wednesday or Thursday each week. What follows are the things that caught my eye this week. Hope you enjoy!
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I’ve been feeling a little down lately. I was starting to wonder if I’d ever get out of my slump. Then I had a super amazing night tonight and now I feel completely better! Isn’t that amazing? That just one little event in your evening can completely take the blues away? I love it.

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Anne Taylor

 

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Felt Brooch

 

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Nail Art


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No Fear


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Vintage Necklace


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Passion Fruit Tofu Cake


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Wall Climbing Sofa


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Outlet with USB port

 

xoxo-Kimberly

Guest Posting today…plus weekend updates!

Hey guys! Just a reminder that I’m guest posting over at Amy’s blog today. The post is about self image and being happy with yourself, so I hope you enjoy! Just click the link below.

be happy with yourself

Last night Andy and I went with my family to CircoAereo. We have a family activity every month and this month it was my turn to plan. The show was entertaining and funny-even my niece, Nellie liked it. We all had a great time!

Of course, I had to get a picture of us with the Nellie Bean. I cannot believe how much this girly smiles! It is contagious. It took us a minute to get the picture because she was more interested in grabbing at Andy’s facial hair than looking at the camera.

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Also, it snowed buckets this morning but Andy and I still braved the roads to go pick up some groceries and paint for the kitchen. I am so excited to finally show you more progress. I just ordered a new duvet cover for our bed from West Elm and I cannot wait for it to show up! I’ll snap some pics for you all, don’t worry.

Anyway, I hope you’re enjoying the last day of your weekend. Or maybe you’re like me and get one more glorious day off for President’s Day! Yay!

xoxo-Kimberly